On January 28, 2014, I was one of the many Atlantans who had to ditch their car and take to the ice cold streets.
Here is what happened: After 8 hours in the car, covering maybe only 4 miles distance, I still was nowhere near my destination. So I had decisions to make. Should I park alongside the highway or find a trustworthy street to leave my car? I opted for the actual street and prayed the whole way until I found a Hardee’s restaurant. As I gathered my things to make the two-mile hike to my condo, I realized I had no gloves, no flats and no socks. All I had was an all-weather coat and these awesomely precious Corporate Moxie blue suede pumps!
So how did I end up driving in this weather? Just like many others, I heard the reports of snow, but I thought I would be okay. Besides, I was going to be inside the office, inside the car, and then inside the garage. The only places I needed to be. Inside. Then came half-past noon, and the snow began to stick. I sent out an email to close the office for the remainder of the day, and then I shuffled my staff out the door. So there I was. It was early afternoon now; unbeknownst to me, traffic was already crazy. My treacherous journey would not be over until 9:15pm.
At Hardee’s I left my car and began to walk home. My adrenaline was pumping. I was not scared, but I was very aware of my surroundings. I had to track the snow, with every step avoiding the slippery ice. The sidewalk was deadly by now.
There were others who were forced to pull off the road and hike their way home. I noticed, every one of them looked at me then looked at my awesomely precious shoes, and they smiled. I did not mind. I did not think anything of it. I had to keep going to make it up the hill and cross two major, ice-covered intersections. I slipped quite a few times, but I never fell.
My heels, as you can see, virtually anchored me into the ground like ice hooks. These shoes battled the worst of the worst weather and I finally made it to my condo. All in all, they were an insignificant price to pay in comparison to frost bitten feet or a fractured bone, as many if not most women take their heels off when they have to walk a long distance. My Corporate Moxie wouldn’t allow it, and I found myself sound asleep that night in my own warm bed.
As I was reflecting on my harrowing experience, I began to think about the anxiety and uncertainty I experienced. I was very thankful to have made it home, but I was also disappointed in myself because I usually am prepared for any situation. So I decided to get my old gym bag ready, and I made a list of what I would need in order to make it through another event like this, should it ever happen again. These items are what I have in my bag now, which is perfectly situated in the trunk of my car:
Did I forget anything? How would you prepare for a snowstorm or any storm? Tweet me @CoprorateMoxie or Facebook: Corporate Moxie
I remember my first job. I had just moved to this “Big City” called Atlanta to stay again with my college roommates. I was a paralegal that represented a Finance Company in bankruptcy hearings. I was so excited. Still, I was very nervous because I really had no idea of what to expect. Including the attorney, everyone I worked with was awesome. The challenges I faced were from the Bankruptcy Trustees. I had an issue with one female Trustee in particular and naturally, I am not loud in voicing my opinion. Sadly the Trustee had no patience. One day, I was trying to sort through my facts and I began speaking. I was speaking in a low tone and she berated me in front of the entire court room about ‘not being able to hear me.’ And she said it in a very disrespectful way. Everyone heard her. If I did not watch it, she was going to request that I not come back as the paralegal.
Of course I was new and ‘green’ so I was naturally embarrassed and shocked. The next day, the attorney I worked with tried to console me. My co-worker told me of her experiences with this particular Trustee, but as far as I was concerned, I was done. Did I pull myself together? Yes. Did I have to go on and do my job? Yes. Unfortunately, this left a lasting negative impression on me.
When these situations or events happen in our lives, we have to make sure we are cognizant not to let this shape the woman we are and the professional we strive to be. Everyone will experience criticism during their career journey. We as women have to find effective ways to constructively communicate with one another. The Trustee could have easily asked me to wait after the hearing to express her concerns, but she chose the more aggressive route. Bottom line, no one benefited from her actions. The Trustee might have reacted the way that someone trained her or it could have been her personality. And yes, it could have been me if the situation had been vice-versa in my own career and I would have treated her the same way she treated me if I had not had a mentor.
Either way, let’s make it a point to uplift and help women be the best they can be. Before we correct someone, let’s remember the words that come out of our mouths could make or break someone. No woman should want to break another woman’s spirit. Remember use your moxie to lift up and not tear down. If not, you're the only one who'll lose.
Talk Back to Me! What have some of your experiences been? Have you been a mean girl or the victim of one? What did YOU do? Tweet me @CorporateMoxie or Facebook: Corporate Moxie
Happy 2014! 2014 is off to an awesome start and the Moxie cannot be contained. Welcome to Corporate Moxie! I believe this will be your destination to find inspiration from some of the best and brightest. The dynamic women to be featured here on my blog are smart, accomplished, and willing to give advice to help the next woman find her Moxie.
Moxie is the ability to face difficulty with spirit and courage. I am sure we can all relate to having experiences where we had to show our Moxie. Strong and courageous are attributes that are celebrated in this forum. Whether you are up and coming, a seasoned professional, or stepping out to start your own business, do not apologize for wanting to be one of the best in your chosen career field. So, stay connected and encouraged.
Moxie Alert – Stay tuned to learn how you can get involved and help Corporate Moxie provide a Moxie Make-Over for a deserving woman who could use help discovering her Moxie!