I had the pleasure of being named a contributing article for RYSE Interactive's RYSE Magazine.
My article, about style, of course, is featured in their Fall 2016 issue. Click the image above to be sent to the online article.
Thanks to RYSE Magazine and their staff for the opportunity.
You take the long journey to climb the ladder only to realize it's not all what it's cracked up to be. So, what's Moxie to do?
Check out some great advice from Levo League:
Getting impatient with coworkers. Lack of energy to be consistently productive. Unexplained headaches. Frustration with your job. According to Mayo Clinic, these are all symptoms of job burnout—and with the pressure to succeed increasing by the day, even the most talented are experiencing professional fatigue.
So what’s the solution? We spoke to three female CEOs to get their stories of how they found themselves overwhelmed by the day-to-day, only to grab the reins and make significant changes, ultimately improving both their personal and professional lives. These are their stories.
Work Trumped Wellness
Emilie Aries, CEO of Bossed Up
I, like, so many women was burnt out completely. I was mentally, physically, and spiritually exhausted—all before the age of 25. I had a great job that I was really passionate about, but because I spent so much time working, I didn’t invest any time in my personal sustainability. I had gone from being a college athlete to not having a gym membership for three years. I was working right through my lunch hour. And I was also in a relationship that really brought me down instead of lifting me up. All of these things combined were not working together. On the other side of my transition, where I realized the importance of investing in my personal sustainability for the sake of my professional longevity, I wanted to take these tools and make them actionable for women everywhere. I believe that there are many ways to empower women. Here at Bossed Up, we focus on the personal level: What can you do to take better care of yourself and to advocate for yourself with the same effort and energy that we use to advocate for our loved ones, our organizations, and for the causes we believe in?
The Never-Ending Fight
Alexis Jones, founder of I AM THAT GIRL and ProtectHer
I feel like giving up Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. Being an entrepreneur and being on the cutting edge of activism, it is very frustrating to work with systems that feel so ancient or archaic. But you have to learn how to let things roll off your back and know that you can’t win them all. How I’ve learned to deal with it is by saying, “Can you politely step aside, because there is someone who really does care.” I am grateful because I have an amazing support system between my parents, my siblings, and my fiancé—they pick me up and dust me off. They help me think, “Today I tried hard and it didn’t go with the plan, but I’ll keep pushing.”
Try, Then Try Again
Jesse Draper, CEO of The Valley Girl, Inc.
I’m an entrepreneur, so those moments when I want to throw in the towel happen to me all the time. I’ve had a million pivots, especially in entertainment. I started in the digital world when people had no idea what was going on. I did 35 different distribution deals, from Mashable to Forbes to Hearst Publications. I was getting millions of views, but I didn’t quite know how to quantify the impact of those accomplishments. That was when I realized I needed to streamline what I was doing. I jumped over YouTube and now more recently, I switched to TV. And the transition was tough. I’ve had the craziest things happen along the way, like producers who’ve blackmailed me after stealing all of my hard drives. Entertainment it’s like the Wild West. I’ve had many a battle and it’s never-ending, but you have to keep grinding.
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I have previously posted my two cents on contending with those that are not even worthy of being contended with and it's something I address often in coaching sessions. So, this is a reminder for me and every other polished, professional and “all that” career woman who finds herself dealing with another unworthy foe.
Understand that you have the goods. You have perfected your craft and worked hard to get where you are, but there always is and will be someone who did not see all that you have endured to get where you are, that will sit there and judge you. Because they did not see all that you sacrificed to get that corner office or that title, they think you don’t deserve to be where you are. The nerve!
They want you to come back. What do I mean by that? Come back and do the entry level tasks that they are assigned to do because they feel you don’t know how to do them, therefore, you are unworthy to hold your position. I will keep saying this; you know what you did in order to make it to where you are. Sacrifice. You delayed portions of your life to accomplish what is important to you. Sacrifice. You endured criticism and downright disrespectful behavior and proved haters wrong. Sacrifice. You earned every bit of your title. Don’t let anyone make you think you have to prove something to them. You don’t. Know who you are and walk in it every day.
Casting pearls before swine is scriptural. The scripture comes from Matthew 7:6. It basically warns of not giving your best to those who are not worthy of your best. Swine will not recognize your best as the best and will have absolutely no regard for your best and will eventually use it against you. This truth should set someone reading this free.
Don’t be surprised when you experience the “casting pearls before swine” syndrome. It’s a syndrome because it’s a combination of opinions, emotions and behaviors that your mere presence causes. Be strong and know that you are not by yourself. Moxie has your back and will always remind you that you are AWESOME!
I understand that we all see ourselves as the quintessential professional. You have studied and endured to make it to the top. Just when you think all your hard work and dedication is about to pay off, you experience a feeling of defeat you have never encountered before.
You keep going and you start to feel run down and you can’t get enough sleep. Sunday’s start to bring anxiety and dread overtakes you. You don’t know what to do. You want a career, but now you don’t know if you have what it takes. What happened?
Usually, somewhere along your journey you encountered someone or a situation that has shaken your confidence. You usually don’t recognize this until it has happened. You begin to doubt yourself and your skills. The skills that you spent years cultivating and honing to reach your level of professional status. When this happens, what can you do?
Understand that you are going through a rough patch and it will pass. However, how you come through may lead you in another direction. Be open.
Realize that anyone trying to shake your confidence is someone who sees your potential and feels threatened. They will do anything to keep their place at the top.
Recognize it’s all part of greater plan. Although it is difficult to endure this time, you will come out stronger and confident.
That which tries to tear you down usually bring the opposite effect. You become exactly what they are trying to block you from being. Life is a journey, but just know that during the journey there will be adventure. The adventure usually can only be appreciated when it is over, so gather your Moxie and face it with courage!