I have previously posted my two cents on contending with those that are not even worthy of being contended with and it's something I address often in coaching sessions. So, this is a reminder for me and every other polished, professional and “all that” career woman who finds herself dealing with another unworthy foe.
Understand that you have the goods. You have perfected your craft and worked hard to get where you are, but there always is and will be someone who did not see all that you have endured to get where you are, that will sit there and judge you. Because they did not see all that you sacrificed to get that corner office or that title, they think you don’t deserve to be where you are. The nerve!
They want you to come back. What do I mean by that? Come back and do the entry level tasks that they are assigned to do because they feel you don’t know how to do them, therefore, you are unworthy to hold your position. I will keep saying this; you know what you did in order to make it to where you are. Sacrifice. You delayed portions of your life to accomplish what is important to you. Sacrifice. You endured criticism and downright disrespectful behavior and proved haters wrong. Sacrifice. You earned every bit of your title. Don’t let anyone make you think you have to prove something to them. You don’t. Know who you are and walk in it every day.
Casting pearls before swine is scriptural. The scripture comes from Matthew 7:6. It basically warns of not giving your best to those who are not worthy of your best. Swine will not recognize your best as the best and will have absolutely no regard for your best and will eventually use it against you. This truth should set someone reading this free.
Don’t be surprised when you experience the “casting pearls before swine” syndrome. It’s a syndrome because it’s a combination of opinions, emotions and behaviors that your mere presence causes. Be strong and know that you are not by yourself. Moxie has your back and will always remind you that you are AWESOME!
Being Loyal is very important in business. However, it’s more important to be loyal to yourself first. I am not going to say that you are replaceable in your company. I honestly believe every employee is counted on and needed, but when an employee fails to hold up their end of the bargain, then the employee becomes replaceable.
What do I propose? Be loyal to an organization as long as you have goals. You must have goals set for yourself to balance out your loyalty. Understand that your organization is not there to fulfill your life. Too many times, we want to trade our loyalty for security within an organization. If you do this, do not be surprised when you develop a higher expectation for your organization than your organization has for you. Meaning, they will make decisions based on what is best for their business.
I suggest you do the same. Be loyal. Meaning: do your job and be accountable, however, make decisions solely based on what is best for you. Do all that is expected of you and work to make business connections that can benefit you in the future.
You should take stock to make sure you are learning and developing in your position. Once you have gained the knowledge and have achieved all that you had set out to achieve, then you have to look for other options to get you to the next level. If you decide to stay after you have reached your goals because you are “comfortable”, then realize that you may be stifling your own growth. Nothing is wrong with being “comfortable” as long as you are investing in developing your career in some other manner.
Loyalty is great in building character. When it comes to business, use it your advantage; but realize that an organization will not have the same loyalty to you. Keep your Moxie.
Work. Sometimes you love it and at times you just don’t know. I'll go ahead and say it...being an adult is at times overrated! We have to do things we never thought we would have to do. When you finished school you believed that having to contend with others would not be as prevalent, but you were wrong.
There are times where we all had to struggle and strive in our career during change or just plain standing up for what we believed. It’s not good to continuously contend with opposition at work. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t:
Have you ever had a 'What the ...?!?' moment at work with those in a leadership role? For example, it just feels like they have no clue. I call that "Leadless Leadership'.
What is Leadless Leadership? Leadership that advances an agenda at their subordinate’s expense. These leaders don’t understand the current workplace and don’t try to learn more or gain a broader understanding of their position.
My Masters in Organizational Leadership has taught me to always watch the leader. In the past I have watched leaders advance their agenda at the expense of others. They allowed other leaders from different departments to dictate what they should or should not do. At no time did the leader feel empowered to make its own decisions. Instead, they often failed to protect their staff that has performed for them time and time again.
If this resonates with you and this is your reality, here are a few things you can do:
Often times, knowing how you will handle a leadless leader make the situation bearable. You don’t have to sit there and take it. Having a strategy is crucial in your professional development. My advice to you is, don’t just exist and not take responsibility for your career. You are in control and empowered. Feel empowered to work your Moxie!