I have previously posted my two cents on contending with those that are not even worthy of being contended with and it's something I address often in coaching sessions. So, this is a reminder for me and every other polished, professional and “all that” career woman who finds herself dealing with another unworthy foe.
Understand that you have the goods. You have perfected your craft and worked hard to get where you are, but there always is and will be someone who did not see all that you have endured to get where you are, that will sit there and judge you. Because they did not see all that you sacrificed to get that corner office or that title, they think you don’t deserve to be where you are. The nerve!
They want you to come back. What do I mean by that? Come back and do the entry level tasks that they are assigned to do because they feel you don’t know how to do them, therefore, you are unworthy to hold your position. I will keep saying this; you know what you did in order to make it to where you are. Sacrifice. You delayed portions of your life to accomplish what is important to you. Sacrifice. You endured criticism and downright disrespectful behavior and proved haters wrong. Sacrifice. You earned every bit of your title. Don’t let anyone make you think you have to prove something to them. You don’t. Know who you are and walk in it every day.
Casting pearls before swine is scriptural. The scripture comes from Matthew 7:6. It basically warns of not giving your best to those who are not worthy of your best. Swine will not recognize your best as the best and will have absolutely no regard for your best and will eventually use it against you. This truth should set someone reading this free.
Don’t be surprised when you experience the “casting pearls before swine” syndrome. It’s a syndrome because it’s a combination of opinions, emotions and behaviors that your mere presence causes. Be strong and know that you are not by yourself. Moxie has your back and will always remind you that you are AWESOME!
I understand that we all see ourselves as the quintessential professional. You have studied and endured to make it to the top. Just when you think all your hard work and dedication is about to pay off, you experience a feeling of defeat you have never encountered before.
You keep going and you start to feel run down and you can’t get enough sleep. Sunday’s start to bring anxiety and dread overtakes you. You don’t know what to do. You want a career, but now you don’t know if you have what it takes. What happened?
Usually, somewhere along your journey you encountered someone or a situation that has shaken your confidence. You usually don’t recognize this until it has happened. You begin to doubt yourself and your skills. The skills that you spent years cultivating and honing to reach your level of professional status. When this happens, what can you do?
Understand that you are going through a rough patch and it will pass. However, how you come through may lead you in another direction. Be open.
Realize that anyone trying to shake your confidence is someone who sees your potential and feels threatened. They will do anything to keep their place at the top.
Recognize it’s all part of greater plan. Although it is difficult to endure this time, you will come out stronger and confident.
That which tries to tear you down usually bring the opposite effect. You become exactly what they are trying to block you from being. Life is a journey, but just know that during the journey there will be adventure. The adventure usually can only be appreciated when it is over, so gather your Moxie and face it with courage!
Work. Sometimes you love it and at times you just don’t know. I'll go ahead and say it...being an adult is at times overrated! We have to do things we never thought we would have to do. When you finished school you believed that having to contend with others would not be as prevalent, but you were wrong.
There are times where we all had to struggle and strive in our career during change or just plain standing up for what we believed. It’s not good to continuously contend with opposition at work. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t:
Let me just say I thoroughly enjoyed my convo with Ms. Natt Taylor. She is just awesome and knows her business! This creative and determined entrepreneur used her stint in Corporate America to her advantage. She paired her accounting skills, with her creations to co-workers that began spreading the word beyond her inner-circle to become Natt Taylor Collections, a sassy, sophisticated womenswear that celebrates the natural feminine form. Natt is a true inspiration and learned early on to take the road less traveled.
I began sewing in high school and continued throughout college creating pieces for friends. After graduation, I began working in corporate America where I was presented with a dress code akin to the traditional corporate look of dark and muted colors. My attempts to break up the corporate monotony with hot pink and vibrant blazers failed as I was told that my bright pieces and general use of color was against the company’s dress code. So, I began sewing for myself, replacing the lining of my blazers with bright colors. I even decorated my work space with vibrant colors and other creative artwork to keep me going throughout the day.
My coworkers began to notice the pieces that I designed for myself and started placing orders at my cubicle. After saving my money and really working towards starting my own business, I ventured out on my own and after nearly nine years, I have not looked back since
The Importance of a Support System:
You have to believe in yourself because not everyone is going to understand your vision. Your vision is YOUR vision and you have to do all that you can to make it a viable career. You will always find some resistance, however, you cannot get caught up in that. Sometimes people just don’t fully get it because it’s not theirs to understand, but they will still support you and help you achieve your vision. My family is supportive and they are there for me; that support has helped me tremendously along the way. At the same time, I was able to show everyone that this was not, “just a sewing thing”.
When doubt creeps in I…
Pray. I encourage everyone stepping out and starting a new thing to pray. When you have a business and everyone sees that things are going well, they tend to not understand how much work goes in to making the business successful. It’s a whole lot of work. There will be lean times and you have fight through.
Can’t forget mentors
I have a few mentors. I encourage everyone to get a mentor. Most importantly, do not limit your mentors to your specific industry. Realize there are some people in your life that can only help you get so far. You will need to seek out someone who knows their stuff and really want to see you succeed.
To the everyday woman I say…
If you desire to go to the next level or start your own thing, surround yourself with people who can help you. If you are starting your own business, you have to learn business. It’s never too late to chase your dream, but be prepared. I had accounting experience and the business side was easy for me to grasp. Also, don’t regret the path you took to get to where you are today. You can always pull from what you have experienced.
Don’t you just love it! Sometimes we can be in an office environment and waste time trying to change the company. Maybe we should stop trying to change certain things and change the way we see ourselves and our thinking. Just a thought!
Natt let me in on a little secret I am passing on to you, she is expanding her basics line to include pieces under $100.00, so let’s put our coinage aside for our Moxie wardrobe.
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