What do you do? There are few ways to chop this tree. Before you begin chopping, ask yourself if you have caused this by your own actions.
- Have I become too close?
- Do I involve my staff in my personal life?
- Do the morning meetings to discuss Scandal, Real Housewives of Atlanta, or Love & Hip Hop reveal a little too much about your inner crazy?
If you answer yes to one or all of these questions, you are not alone, but just know things will have to change.
- Now you are aware of your role (or maybe the opposite), but you can begin to plan how you are going to address the issue.
- Have a meeting with your staff and make sure expectations are addressed.
- After the meeting, discretely meet with the employee that you believe to be the rotten apple.
- Do not immediately interrogate them. Ask them about how they perceived what was said in the meeting.
- Listen to what they are saying, and do not interrupt.
After they have said all that they feel needs to be said, go over their concerns, but reiterate your expectations so that the employee leaves the meeting understanding your concerns.
Next, you will experience growing pains. The employee is not going to like the new you. Though, they talked about how casual you are with them and how you were not a “real supervisor,” they actually prefer the old you. It gave them something to gripe about.
Now that you have taken away those issues that clouded the supervisor-employee line of demarcation, they have to make a decision to whether or not they will adjust, or leave. Sometimes a resignation is a necessary tool. If they stay, encourage the positive changes they are making. This won’t happen all at once, so be patient.
Last is consistency. Stay committed to your new found professional posture with your staff. There are times you are going to want to go in and talk way too much about a lot of things, but refrain. Maintain the standard, and the standard will soon become the norm. Realize, you are the boss and you have a responsibility to yourself and your organization to develop and manage the talent assigned to you.